How to manage depression?

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November 20, 2018, 5:17 am

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I'm beginning this discussion with the aim that I will help a friend that is passing through serious depression. The issue began few days ago when she was dumped by her fiance of six years.

I have tried to talked her out of depression, but it seems that it is not working. What ways can one manage depression?

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cks003

cks003

I write from my experience as I was once had the same problem from my relation. It takes a long time to heal a person from pain he is going through and he should be accompanied with constant advices and motivations from relatives and friends around him. Some trips to far away may help to forget the experiences and try not to trigger the memory. It can be places they been to together, food they like to eat, etc. Lastly, some meditation is good to calm down and introspection.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Same here, writing has became my strength before.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

Me too, writing has been a great help to overcome what I have felt in the past.

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Corzhens

Corzhens

If you mean depression caused by a breakup I guess it is really painful that the person should undergo a paradigm shift. First item are the places that will remind him of the broken relationship. Next are the people who are closely related to the ex. Socializing is another way to forget and make the healing process faster although it depends on the kinds of people that you will socialize with.

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mcnasci24

mcnasci24

Depression or sadness are a natural part of life. People disappoint us, things go wrong, we lose loved ones or the dreams we value come crashing down. When depression lasts for weeks or months, occurs frequently and interferes with your ability to interact with people and enjoy your life, you probably suffer some kind of depression. To have the help of a doctor and a support group around you, can effectively treat even a serious depression.

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amelia88

amelia88

I think what you said is very true. There are always struggles or trials and tribulations that we experience in life, but if you’re feeling like it’s prolonged sadness impacting your quality of life it’s important to speak to a professional.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

I agree with you, and it will affect your life in the long way run.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yeah, right. If it last for a long time make sure to do something before it's too late.

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edencaga

edencaga

Yes. Life wouldn't be challenging if we only have happiness and success. It's normal to be depress but just don't go over beyond that as it's also bad to the health. Frustrations and pain is normal so accepting faults, failures and disappointments is a must but instead of making your self miserable try to be positive whatever problems you may be experiencing.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

My brother one time expressed or shared his depression with me. He told me I want to commit suicide because of his family problem. I talked it out with him. In the end of our talk he don't want to commit suicide anymore.

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amelia88

amelia88

It’s amazing what the power of a good conversation can do to help people. Sometimes just feeling like you’re not alone is a huge thing in overcoming that depressive state.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

I agree with you, it's a huge deal it might seems like it's not but it will help a lot.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

That is really great, he is very lucky to have you as a brother.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

I agree it is the little things that we do in life to show love that matter most and more so to our dear ones.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, we might thought that it's nothing but it was a big thing to them.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Pooh yeeeah. There are small things which are everything to other people that may not have any other hope left. This makes it very important to always help out even with the least that we have.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

sometimes just our presence and our comfort is enough to keepo them going

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theresajane

theresajane

It's good that there are still people who openly talk about depression. Sadly, most people who are struggling with it are finding it hard to even open the topic.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, some people act like depression is a taboo topic, which is not. It is important that people are well educated in mental health issues.

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burgosmichael24

burgosmichael24

Prayers, family and friends support, a good rest and enough sleep with healthy foods can help someone cope depression. A lot of people nowadays suffer from this mental ailment and we need to do something to prevent it. Let's spread more love and positivity and most importantly, our prayers.

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overcast

overcast

Change your mental scripts. Instead of having the script that gets you mentally handicapped. You have to get to challenge those scripts. For example if your mind says, what's the purpose of life if you are alone and going to die alone. Challenge it by saying, so what people who are married and being couple they are not doing any favor on universe either. So stop bothering me about being alone. That's how you challenge the bad scripts. That's the thing to get rid of depression.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

But the problem is it is hard to do, when you are depress sometimes you are fixated on the negative one and can't seem to see the lights.

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overcast

overcast

True. I am myself depressed. And kind of stuck but everyday I am writing new script and changing the way life is around me. I try to think positive one thought at a time. This helps me change perspective a lot. More you make a habit it becomes easy.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, I feel you. No matter how much you tried on holding on or something you still feel like you are falling in the darkness.

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overcast

overcast

Yes hence the scripts to tell yourself about good things around. You have to constantly tell yourself that depression is serious. And you have to work on it one day at a time. It may never go away. Or it may go away when things are changed in life. But it does not work instantly.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Good for you, I think people have different way to over come depression.

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overcast

overcast

Yes each one of us have different mental issues. And each one have to try the different scripts. So that is the way we learn about things differently. I have noticed that people who have different circumstances they tend to learn about depression differently.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Telling yourself good things assists to increase the motivation you have and having a less pathetic feeling is always important in tackling depression.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Excellent pointers my friend. A change of mindset always enables one to get new opportunities in life and grow as well.

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overcast

overcast

Yes telling your mind about good things. That seems to be one way many people can manage the depression and the mindset lot easier and simple way. I have seen many people taking care of their own mind and in general health improves from there only.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

It is commonly said that he mind believes what you feed or tell it.

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overcast

overcast

Often that to be true. But we have to also make sure to have skeptical mind. So as to avoid us from getting into the wrong decision. And that in itself can be a bit harder to handle in some circumstances. So mind is a bit tricky thing.

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esteban123

esteban123

I think that depression is a serious problem that needs an immediate solution since it can triggers ones life in a tough situation which could lead to serious problems and consequences. I think if your friend does not react when you have talked with her then I think much better if you will help her consult to specialist about depression since she will be guided and be given some sort of counseling to ease the depression that she is experiencing now.

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Jelineex

Jelineex

Yes, I agree with you that it is a serious problem. It's difficult to help them in our way because they usually ignore and are close minded. It is better to see someone of expertise for early remedy. I hope that your friend will never forget to take foods to nourish her mind and body. She needs comfort from her family and friends. I hope she will overcome her emotions.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

The fact that we don't know much about depression, it is better to consult a therapist, than do something that might trigger them.

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Jelineex

Jelineex

It's best to help them with the doctors attention to have early remedy. Depression has different level and it's a fear to know the worst. It best to be sensitive in this case.

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jayjaydimson

jayjaydimson

Yes, I agree with you, people who are suffering on a depression must have an open mind and always relax.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

It is always great when you affirm to yourself that there are numerous opportunities and you will surely get through whatever troubles you have at the moment. It is all about being a survivor.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, and the people around them should support them too.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

We should always gang up around people that have broken hearts just like we do with those that are happy. When someone is depressed it means a lot to spend even some time listening to them.

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Kakashi2020

Kakashi2020

To me depression is just a problem which you need to solve. What I do is I identify the problem and formulate ways of solving that problem.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Depression is more than that, it is an illness not just "something".

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, it is the best to seek to the professional because self diagnosis can be really dangerous.

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overcast

overcast

I think finding out where the depression is coming from. And where it is affecting many others. That pointer itself can be one way to understand how to handle the depression. I have seen some of the people making the most out of the mindfulness to take control over their depression. That's what I have realized.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, you should know what is the root of the depression, so that you know how to change it.

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overcast

overcast

Finding the roots and fixing the issues is the way to go. But it takes years, the amount of years it takes for depression to form. It gets easier if you ask me. Because depression is kind of depending on our response to things around. That's what I have realized.

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Alymae

Alymae

I have personally experienced depression. I was at the point of my life that I wanted to die. My feeling was nobody loves me and everyone is against me. It was horrible. The people around me cannot understand me. My depression was caused by a lot of reasons. It was mainly because of my family.

In dealing with depressed people, you should not judge them. Some people would say that they are weak. But the truth is you don't know what they are going through. Try to understand them as best as you can and support them. Show them that you are there for her/ him. If the depression is escalating it's better if you contact a professional as soon as possible. When I was suffering through my depression, God was the one I go too. Get her/him to open to a counselor, a pastor or a priest. Some depressed people do not want to go to a doctor because they would be scared of being labeled as someone who has mental problems.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Even the strongest people get depressed only that some people learn to surpress their feelings which hurt them deep inside and this can be disastrous as they may choose just one means of expressing the feelings and it can be through causing a disaster or harming themselves.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, it's not about how strong you are there are just times where you can't handle things.

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Alymae

Alymae

Yes. This is actually a lot scarier than people who act out. Because of this types, they bottled everything and then explode. Sometimes they just kill themselves without anyone knowing or have any idea why he/she did it. There are also people who commit crimes and some, just ended up mental and sick. So, this should really be taken seriously. Depression has somehow become an epidemic worldwide especially to teens.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Have you ever heard of people that have committed suicide who people describe as the most jovial of fellows and more so who do not have any signs. Then just like that, boom! They're gone.

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Alymae

Alymae

I have known a 18 year old teen who was very jovial and has lots of friends. Nobody knows what happened and what is the reason why he hanged himself. If he didn't write a letter no one will know that the reason was the breakup with his girlfriend for two months already.it was really sad.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

And some of it hide it, and act like they are ok when in fact they are not.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

I also battled with depression before. I wanted to kill myself. It was the Lord who saved me from doing it.

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mark8625

mark8625

That was really hard for you I can tell. Good thing you overcome that situation in your life. Trust and keep with God and He will never disappoint you.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Good for you, yiur faith in God is really strong it saves you from yourself.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

wow that must be really hard. I agree with you, depression is not easy and people should not mock those people with depression, instead they should encourage them or just be kind to them.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Never mock anyone that faces such troubles. It is extremely hard to deal with internal pain and the mind is very fragile.

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mark8625

mark8625

That is right. We dont have the right to judge them and even mock them. We should support them and help them too to overcome such problem.

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Alymae

Alymae

True. The mind is very fragile and can easily be broken by the smallest things. It is really hard to deal with this types of people because we never know what's running through their heads. They can sink deeper to their depression by our simple words.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

yes, they are sensitive and mocking only worsen it.

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Jelineex

Jelineex

Thank you for sharing your story. You have the courage to let people know how it feels to be in that situation. Acceptance and awareness on what's happening in one's life is a great step for healing. I also agree that love from family and friends has a great impact to overcome depression.

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Barida

Barida

Thank you for this as I am already looking at ways that I can support her in the best possible way. Depression is really difficult and we should always look at ways that we can support those that are passing through this moment as well.

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Jelineex

Jelineex

I hope your friend will overcome her emotions. She will find acceptance in her heart and continue with her journey. There is always a joy and hope in every defeat. God bless you and your friend @Barida

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theresajane

theresajane

It's so sad that people die because of depression. But, we need to lift our spirits up to help those people who are also struggling with depression and are still alive.

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amelia88

amelia88

Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing your experiences. I think it's important for people to get the perspectives of those who have overcome depression personally so we know how to better help others.

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beerthooyah

beerthooyah

In my own opinion she is just broken hearted and not depressed. I think there is a slight difference between these two. Depression is serious mental condition that needs to be addressed medically. However, in the case of your friend I'm pretty sure over time she will get over her fiance. It just hurt so much at this moment because the wound that is left by her fiance is still fresh and painful. Just continue giving her moral support and always give your shoulder that she could cry on.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, sometimes people who are self diagnosing miss diagnosed sadness and loneliness to depression which is very different.

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Barida

Barida

I pray that it does not get to the point of depression. I believe that we should always try to give those that are passing through a lot the necessary support that we can offer to them always.

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agbuyarashel

agbuyarashel

I always say whenever I see threads about depression is to never stop believing that there's hope and pray for guidance.
I've been there and it really sucks but just keep on fighting and continue living your life. You should focus yourself not ondepression itself but on the things that you enjoy and love doing, keep yourself busy and if suicide swim in your mind always remember that by killing yourself you won't ve able to solve your problems and you might cause problems to your family and friends.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

I agree. Suiciding doesn't solve any problem. You're just leaving thinhs behind and cause another problem for you family and friends. It is hard to get away from depression but it will help if you will just focus on the good things rather than looking at the problem itself.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Yes, it is just and easy escape, you left behind the problems to your love ones.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

I think that's a way of making things more complicated. Suiciding will never be a solution, it's just like an another set of problems that are worse than the problems you were facing when you are still alive.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, the prayers would really help.

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theresajane

theresajane

I agree with you. There's nothing more effective than keeping yourself busy. I was depressed before, but I still had the part in me who was very concerned with my responsibilities in school and my grades. Thankfully, the different activities in school helped me a lot.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, it really sucks to have depression especially when people around you thought that you are faking it.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

It is natural for her to feel sad and depressed for what happened. Even I would feel the same. I believe this is the best time that she needs you and your other friends the most. You need to be there to support and care for her. Let her to take time for herself to heal and accept things. After then, bring her to different places and treat her some foods that she likes, that might help her. But the best thing to do in order to get away from depression is accept everything that has happened already. Accepting will make a room for your heart to understand things that you cannot accept at first. But that will take time and you have to be there for her.

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amelia88

amelia88

I think that's also important to remind people of. It's normal to feel upset and heartbroken after the end of a relationship. Everyone does. I do think if it's something that's prolonged of course it's a good idea to see a professional, but if you can remind her of all the good things life has to offer outside of her relationship then that's a great start to help pull her out of the sadness she is in.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

Her friends should help her to recover from the pain she's experiencing because of that heartbreak. I agree that they should help her see that her world will not stop revolving just because someone special left her.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Depression is a serious illness, the best thing that your friend will do is to see a professional, they will help your friend. They will suggest activities that will distract him/her, the person who is depress will undergo a therapy and maybe they'll give him/her a anti depressant pills to regulate his/her feelings.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

I agree with you with this. It is very helpful to see professional.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

It is the best option, they should consult to one.

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Judas2018

Judas2018

Try and cheer her up best you can. I wouldn't try and get her any professional help, that sort of decision should be reserved for her family to make. You can act as a solid support system though.

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theresajane

theresajane

I agree with you. Though it may seem that they are closing doors, they still need affection and positivity. It will take time, but she will get away from it in time with your help.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, it is still the best if the person try to see a professional.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

You don't have to be a family member to suggest help from professionals.

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mcnasci24

mcnasci24

You should try to select a group of activities that, before entering into the depressive crisis, generated interest and enthusiasm to you. For example, if you liked to practice some type of sport, now you should propose yourself to recover aptitudes in that activity, even if it is in a reduced way.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

This is how I will manage depression. I will examine myself thoroughly. I will try to find out the cause and solve it. The root cause is very important in solving the problem. Just like the tree that is not fruitful, I believe the problem is underneath the ground. It is in the roots. If the root is healthy, then the plant will be healthy and fruitful also.

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superlicca

superlicca

That is really tough and as a friend, what you need to do is to make her feel that you are always there for her. Let her cry, it will release some pain. And always give her the best advice that you can give. If you can, try to bring her to some beautiful and fun places. Or what she needs to do is to keep herself busy, therefore, she won't have the time to be depressed.

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amelia88

amelia88

I think it’s just fantastic that there is someone who cares so much that they want to help their friend so greatly! What a fantastic person to be so concerned about their friends wellbeing!

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Indeed, a lot of people now a days just ignore the little things that matters the most, the post that indicates that thier friend is having a hard time in life.

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amelia88

amelia88

Yes - it’s a sad fact of life that in our fast paced world these days we often miss the signs that a friend or family member is struggling. It’s great when someone is able to realize and try to help their loved one through a hard time.

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cmoneyspinner

cmoneyspinner

The best way to handle depression is through a supportive spouse, relative or friend. Don't lose patience with them. Get them tp talk to you. Let them cry. Don't always feel like you need to offer a solution or to make things right. Sometimes it helps for you to just be there. Your presence lets them know they're not alone and they have value.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

That is right. I agree with what you said. Just be there with them.

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amelia88

amelia88

I think what you said is so true. The fact that the original poster cares so much about their friend that they’re here asking for advice is so commendable. Having that kind of concern for a friend is lovely and what many people battling depression need - knowing that someone really cares.

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superlicca

superlicca

That is right! Sometimes, depressed people don't need some advice, what they need is a shoulder to cry on. It is good to have someone who can be there for her all the time.

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overcast

overcast

Problem is that this may work out in some places but not all. Not all people have good family, friends and relatives. So some of the time we have to be our own support. I know this because I have struggled with depression. It definitely changed my perspective.

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cmoneyspinner

cmoneyspinner

For those who are blessed enough to be strong enough to be their own support, that is wonderful. But so many people need the support of other people. But those who pull themselves up out of that dark black hole, I hope they will write books or give speeches and let others know ... it's not the end of the world and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

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overcast

overcast

Yes totally agree. I think this is the reason they may have developed concept of support groups, shrink and other similar activities. That seems to be helping some people. Though not all can access this around the world.

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cmoneyspinner

cmoneyspinner

That's the thing with Support Groups. You have to be able to access them. That's why I mentioned a spouse, relative or friend. They are usually right there if you need them. There are some groups on Facebook but if I'm being honest, there is no way I would hook up with a bunch of strangers in cyberspace and make them aware of how vulnerable I am at this time in my life. A predator might be combing through those groups “seeking whoever he or she can DEVOUR!” One must consider the risk to their personal safety.

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overcast

overcast

I think another view is that often depression cause is often the family itself. So one can't run away from that fact. And so in such case managing the response towards such toxic environment can be another thing to watch out from. I think lot of things are different for each person.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, you should make the person feel love and needed.

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burgosmichael24

burgosmichael24

Yeah that's right! Depression is a serious problem and must be treated seriously. I have friends who suffers depression and they suicidal thoughs. Thank God they survived in this trial through prayers and support of their family and friends. I am glad to share that my friend who suffer from depression is now an adovocate on mental health awareness and travel everywhere to share her story and give awareness to everyone.

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anyone01

anyone01

Depression is a dependancy of notion. the process for dealing with despair is similar to the procedure for changing all conduct of thought. Commonly people embark on this difficult work due to the fact they want to alternate a addiction of idea that reasons a behavioral sample that makes them unhappy or is adverse or dysfunctional.

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Bravosi

Bravosi

Try to focus on something else entirely, then you will be able to get over your depression.
I used to have a depression myself many years ago, the only way I was able to solve it is to become more ideological in this world and less materially pragmatic.
Set yourself some goals and pursue them. You'll feel much better when completing them.

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Jeane

Jeane

Post-break up depression is mostly hard to deal with simply because you feel you've been betrayed by someone you trusted. There are some remedies that can help but no guarantees that they will work. Like any other loss you need to face the fact that the worst has happened. You've lost and have to move on. This is hard. Don't pretend that everything is OK or will be OK. Living in denial doesn't make anything better, merely prolongs the pain.

Get some counseling and hang out with friends and family who actually do love you. This can help.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

yes, the best advice is really get help from the professional.

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theresajane

theresajane

This is the hard thing about people with depression. It is really hard to talk to them as their minds are closed to others. Their whole being is being eaten by sadness and frustration. I have a friend who had depression before, though it was so hard talking it out an helping him, I still noticed that there were some gradual improvements through time. So, the keyword here is to be patient as lifting depression away from a person takes time.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I agree with you, sometimes they are so fixated with negative feelings that no matter how much you try to cheer them up they will still feel lonely.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

True, and it is not easy to distract yourself if you think of the negative things in your life.

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jayjaydimson

jayjaydimson

Well, depression is a sad thing and it's a hard thing to experience especially when you are young, to fight that depression, you shouldn't do the things that made you depressed, don't over think because it will not help you, make your mind peace and relax.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

you can't control depression and I think the best thing is to seek for help.

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allyn2017

allyn2017

The worst thing about depression is you don't want to be around with people sometimes and don't want to talk. Some people even isolate theirselves from the crowd, it is really hard and I know it because I've been there. But for me the best thing you could do is to convince your friend to consult a therapist/counselor.

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amelia88

amelia88

It’s definitely hard when someone isolates themselves as part of their depression and it can certainly make the symptoms worse. If you can just spend time with your friend if they’re open to that, it can make a huge difference.

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superlicca

superlicca

It is hard if a depressed person does not want to be surrounded by people. It is important to have someone by your side when you are depressed. People around can help you a lot. Sometimes, those depressed people would commit suicide since they don't have anyone to talk to.

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amelia88

amelia88

There's no shame in asking for help from a medical professional. Depending on the severity they may prescribe medication, or may suggest alternate ideas. I always, always think you should seek help. We should strive as a planet for not stigmatizing depression or other mental illnesses.

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Steve5

Steve5

I agree. Sometimes you actually need to seek medical attention. It's never too late to get professional advice. Many health care experts can aid with such a sensitive condition.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

It's true, seeking for professional help is one of the best answer.

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mhingnhormz

mhingnhormz

Depression- is the time when we feeling low/pity to ourselves. It's not just YOU and ME experience the trouble of having a depression, everyone in this world encounter such thing. And it's not so easy to fight with it. Mostly, are teenagers who always feel this: Bullying, one of the roots that gives depression to the teens, nowadays.If you're depressed, find a way out to that feeling. Here are some that can help: * make your day busy for something that makes you happy* think those happy memories instead of those bad ones* spend time with your family. communicate and be open with them whatever you have gone through, believe me they will help you.* listen to a music- which help you to express what you really felt.* have time to jam with your cousin at your age and close friends Above all talk to GOD, He knows every struggles you did. He knows every pain you had hide. He knows everything, all you had to do is lay everything on Him and you will surely feel better.

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Barida

Barida

Spending time with people especially our family members is one way that we can use to fight this kind of situation as you rightly said. This is the reason you see many people always doing the things that bring mega success to them when they aim to fight depression.

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esteban123

esteban123

I think that those people who are experiencing some depression they must have some thing that they can have to make them busy so that they can easily forget depression because it can only hinder us on our daily living.

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Steve5

Steve5

I agree. One way to fight depression is to avoid being idle. It can keep you occupied until you forget you even felt such negative feelings in the first place. We should let go of stuff that bothers us and instead focus on the good things in life.

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astraherondale

astraherondale

Support from family and friends is crucial - I definitely agree. However, it can only do so much. An individual suffering from depression should see doctor ASAP so that he/she may be prescribed with antidepressant medications, because this is the definitive treatment for the said illness.

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Barida

Barida

Having an appointment with the doctor is necessary when we are talking about the case of depression. Believe me, it is not something that is easy to happen unless you are in that situation where the doctor is ready to help as well.

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esteban123

esteban123

I agree that having some sort of support and encouragement from family and friends could be a good idea to easily eliminate and fight depression in the most convenient ways. We must help certain people who experiences such depression so that it will not result to much more complications in the future.

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Barida

Barida

Many have died all in the name of lacking support from people that would have helped them to fight this kind of issues. So, I believe that when we give them the necessary support, it is going to help them recover.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Support is very essential in situations like that, and your friend is really lucky to have you, to have someone that's willing to help.

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Franzel2oo

Franzel2oo

I think the greatest friend of depression is silence and hoping it'll just go away. I think the first step is desiring to feel better. It helps to deal with the pain early on as well or it'll just get worse. I suggest you find people who care and tell them your story. The more you talk about things that hurt, the more the pain goes away. Sometimes, you could write a book and use it as a way to channel out those feelings too. Most importantly, you should seek professional help. Depression is really dangerous and shouldn't be taken lightly.

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Barida

Barida

She never kept quiet. She told me about the situation which means that she is ready to let things work better in the future again. We should always look at ways that we can assist those that are in this kind of issues.

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knnon

knnon

As one who suffers through bouts of depression, it's honestly very hard to be in that place let alone managing it. It feels like you're a sponge absorb all these negativity and you can't stop it. The more you absorb the heavier it gets. One can't really say how long those episodes will last and it's hard to pinpoint the triggers. My advice is to just be there for your friend. Let her feel that she isn't alone. Spending time with her even sitting in silence or watching a movie it'll help her out a lot. Try to take her out to places with large open spaces with good scenery and fresh air. This helps the body relax which in turn will help the mind be at ease. I hope she pulls through it soon!

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nrnlss

nrnlss

It is really sad how many people are depress right now, the number are really alarming. I hope you'll feel better soon.

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knnon

knnon

Thank you, I appreciate that a lot. And you're right the numbers just keep going up and not only that, the age of sufferers have gone down as well. Even children get depressed these days when they shouldn't even be feeling that dark emotion at all!

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Janie1994

Janie1994

Your friend should really get a therapist, there's many that operate online and can help her come up with a plan to manage her depression. Everyone's struggle is different and while getting advice is admirable, she really should be working on this with a trained professional.

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Barida

Barida

Thanks for the suggestion. Do you know how one can locate a nice therapist from the internet? She is not someone that is outgoing, and having to solve this issue from the internet is going to help a lot.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Where are you from? There are a few psychoanalysis, where you can request a video call sessions rather than face to face. But, I think it is after you have one or two sessions face to face.

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koki12346

koki12346

Go to the doctor perhaps? Take some medicine? If you don't want to do that just make her do anything to take her mind of her ex. Start training or writing or working or absolutely anything... I think those are the things that work.

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Barida

Barida

She is a writer and have written a whole lot of articles that were published as well. One thing that I feel is that this may not get her out of this situation unless she is ready to push for a better help.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Advice her to do some activities, like going out for yoga or boxing.

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Corzhens

Corzhens

I am not an authority on this subject but I have some associations with people who suffered from mild depression. My take on managing depression is for the patient to socialize and be with people as often as he can. There should also be an interesting activity to occupy him like a hobby or an entertaining leisure like watching sports. Depression is mainly caused by sadness on something and you cannot fight reality. All you can do is to divert your attention away from that sadness.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Destruction is really a nice idea, I have read one book before that tackles about depression and anxiety and the therapist there advice the main character to go boxing to destruct herself.

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Em14

Em14

Depression is a very serious problem that some people want to end their own lives. When you supper from depression you are the only one who can help your self. You need to focus on your positive side and never entertain bad imagination or thinking too much bad will happen. Always remember that you are not alone experiencing the same situation and some are worst than you have.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Self cooperation is highly needed, but depress person mostly wanted to die and have given up in life, so it is really hard to make them cooperate.

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esteban123

esteban123

I think that depression is very dangerous if we will not let it be given an immediate solution because many people have died already because of that. We need to do something to avoid and to prevent such depression to happen to all of us. Giving a piece of advice and time to be with them is a good idea to so that they will feel that they are not alone and still worth it to live.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Suicide is cause by depression, and many people had killed themselves. People may argue about depression or suicide but it is really an dangerous illness, honestly a lot of mental illness are actually dangerous and needs a lot of care but, a lot of people are ignorant about those illness.

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gutzman

gutzman

It has to be done naturally. People undergoing depression is having a hard time comprehending positive words and advices. They would rather lock on their room, be silent or cry all day. Being depressed is different from being sad. Sadness could easily fade away with a simple joke but not depression. Being there as a friend even if you are not chatting will still be a good choice. Let her open up to you. Don't force her to talk about the topic . Be always there for her. Your presence could help somehow.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

Sometimes people needs you give other people strength by being there and supporting them, even though you don't know what your friend is going through.

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esteban123

esteban123

Depression was one of the serious problems in our society that lead to an increase in the suicidal attempts of certain individuals. Every year there is an increasing rate for people who are experiencing depression and later on commit suicide in an instant. This is really a very sad issue and alarming since we cannot do something to stop these annoying way of losing life by our countrymen.

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rlpzbeermoney

rlpzbeermoney

I'd take up a hobby if I were you. Even collecting Action Figures can get your mind off your depression. The problem with depression is that if it's there, it's there. Distractions like hobbies are just there to take you mind off it. At least, that's how I perceive it. I'm still battling it to this day to no end.

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esteban123

esteban123

We need to have some activities that would make us enjoy and feel convenient for a while so that we will not feel depression. Things that caught our attention is a good hindrance for us to not to feel depressed for a while. Usually whenever I am experiencing some problems I usually focused my attention to those things that makes my interest and makes me feel good.

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rose61

rose61

Love is sweet but it has a way of proofing us wrong.We should try not to expect too much.I always admire my husband and his way of dealing with life.He believes in giving room for people to make mistakes.This way instead of being depressed,he simply says 'It happens."I know it is hard,but when depressed,love yourself more,dress in your favourite attire,eat your favourite meals,spoil yourself with your hobby,pray and meditate. Remember, you have to be in good shape to conquer it all.

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esteban123

esteban123

I agree that we should not expect too much on certain things that we are doing so that we will not experience depression later on because sometimes we are the reason why we are experiencing such things. Assuming and longing on some things that we don't have and we cannot afford to have may lead to depression if it will just take those for granted. We should avoid it as much as possible and instead be contented on what we have so that we will become happy and not to experience depression.

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jaymish2

jaymish2

I’m sorry about your friend. A heartbreak can certainly lead to depression. The good news is that this is not the worst depression you can suffer from. The worst depression is depression caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain.Your friend should be patient with herself, do things that she enjoys and give herself time to heal. She can treat herself well, eat healthy, get enough rest and in no time she will feel like herself again.

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cjctm11

cjctm11

Being depress is caused by the things that make you feel sad. To contradict that kind of matters you must be happy. Do the things that will make you happy and forget about what makes you feel sad. As a friend you must support what your friend loves to do to make him/her feel happy. Talk about the things that may lead to depression. Always tell your friend that you are open and ready to listen about the problems.

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aldocmp

aldocmp

Just believe in GOD He will never disappoint you How to manage depression?

How to manage depression?

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Caguioa747

Caguioa747

One thing that may help is to talk with a counselor along with taking anti-depressants. That really gets you examining what in your life makes you depressed and how you can fix it. The idea seems to be that you develop these positive habits so that when you come off anti-depressants you have a foundation of positive habits that will keep you feeling well.

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Klint

Klint

I experienced depression before and it was a very unpleasant experience. I don't want to have myself endure those pains again. What I did in order to heal myself was I did meditation everyday. I focused on healing my mental health. No one else can cure your depression but yourself. You have to train your mind to just look at the positive side of life.

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ghednepo

ghednepo

talk to your friends and have a fun bonding

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shivayaseo

shivayaseo

Depression is a disturbance of emotional imbalance and physical imbalance, which can be cured.
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The process of curing and getting rid of depression is just very easy. Is that true??
>>> just find out…>>>
1st Depression starts from low water on your body. Drink enough water after getting up early in the morning.
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2nd Depression starts from emotional imbalance. Always go for walk at 4:00 AM after getting up early in the morning for fresh air and do YOGA from nose and breath as much as air and out for 25 times by sitting down on the floor. Just feel yourself that you are very good and relax and say to yourself I am feeling very positive by closing your eyes with imagination.
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3rd Depression starts from physical imbalance so here you must see the rising sun with your naked eyes ( Just Starting Sun; Red Color) And do a small exercise which will help you feel good and adjust your body muscles movement or stretching your body towards sun thus you will feel physically fit. Here you never feel any restless in your life.

Water= Coolant to your Brain. Balanced to your body temperature.
Fresh Air= Good circulation of blood to your heart and help your nervous system intact.
Closing Eyes and Imagine= You are saying the best and you will get the best. Making yourself optimistic and realistic.
YOGA=Flexibility of muscles and Controlling your mental stability and you can work more efficiently with lots of energy.
SUN= Power of SUN is Power of Truth and realization inside Fire and you. ( Today we born and one day we will die)(No Negative energies make a home inside you)
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“Getting Rid of Depression is so Easy” One must acquaint it with lots of Practice because Practice makes a person perfect.
When somebody Practice for at least 49 days. He or She will get better results. Whenever you need to cry. Cry before rising SUN, because SUN has only power to destroy your negative energies and make you bright and thus making your thoughts clear and seen. Try it.
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I hope I have given a good suggestion. Rest God wishes. Our Ancient Sages have told this and other minor and major depression will just disappear at your will. This will like a charm for mankind.
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Written by Shivayasea Depression is a disturbance of emotional imbalance and physical imbalance, which can be cured. ——————————————————————————————————————————- The process of curing and getting rid of depression is just very easy. Is that true?? >>> just find out…>>> 1st Depression starts from low water on your body. Drink enough water after getting up early in the morning. ———- 2nd Depression starts from emotional imbalance. Always go for walk at 4:00 AM after getting up early in the morning for fresh air and do YOGA from nose and breath as much as air and out for 25 times by sitting down on the floor. Just feel yourself that you are very good and relax and say to yourself I am feeling very positive by closing your eyes with imagination. ———— 3rd Depression starts from physical imbalance so here you must see the rising sun with your naked eyes ( Just Starting Sun; Red Color) And do a small exercise which will help you feel good and adjust your body muscles movement or stretching your body towards sun thus you will feel physically fit. Here you never feel any restless in your life. Water= Coolant to your Brain. Balanced to your body temperature. Fresh Air= Good circulation of blood to your heart and help your nervous system intact. Closing Eyes and Imagine= You are saying the best and you will get the best. Making yourself optimistic and realistic. YOGA=Flexibility of muscles and Controlling your mental stability and you can work more efficiently with lots of energy. SUN= Power of SUN is Power of Truth and realization inside Fire and you. ( Today we born and one day we will die)(No Negative energies make a home inside you) ———————— ———————– “Getting Rid of Depression is so Easy” One must acquaint it with lots of Practice because Practice makes a person perfect. When somebody Practice for at least 49 days. He or She will get better results. Whenever you need to cry. Cry before rising SUN, because SUN has only power to destroy your negative energies and make you bright and thus making your thoughts clear and seen. Try it. ________________________>>> I hope I have given a good suggestion. Rest God wishes. Our Ancient Sages have told this and other minor and major depression will just disappear at your will. This will like a charm for mankind. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Written by Shivayasea

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shivayaseo

shivayaseo

Try to try until you succeed!

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